My 63 Year Love Affair With Doris

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My 63 Year Love Affair With Doris

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I have often thought of writing my own book about my 63 year love affair with Doris Day. I only met her as a small child and have not seen her since, but I could say so much about how she has affected my life every day, every year.
All my close friends and former students could tell you about my idolization of Doris...her name comes up in 80 percent of my conversations, I constantly play her songs for myself and others, if they are in the vicinity; I make hundreds of cds for my friends.
I can't think of any milestones in my life where Doris is not connected. For instance, on the day I was going to get my first driver's license,when I was all nervous and up tight, I heard on the radio, for the first time, "I Speak To The Stars". That put me in a great mood, and I passed with flying colors..thanks to Doris.
Now if I just had the discipline to sit and write. Maybe I need John to help me.

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Very sweet.

I think you should tell her how you feel and what she has meant to you all these years. Time's a wastin', Mikey, put that pen to paper and get going. I bet Doris would love it if you wrote to her.

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Thanks.
I have written her many times. MOST of the time, she responds (but not always).
I used to tell her about all the fun I had using her songs and movies in my English and theatre classes, and she got a kick out of that.
She also enjoyed the year (much later in both our careers) when I told an aspiring actress to try a scene in the fashion of Doris Day. She said: "WHO IS DORIS DAY?" THAT, was a BIG mistake! After two weeks of in depth research and some hard assignments, I suspect that my former student will never forget her....nor will my class of that year.

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Mikey, how wonderful! I find it totally astonishing when I speak to people who have been long term fans, how the impact of having Doris in their lives has shaped their lives. Doris has been a constant whilst everything else can change, she never does. I've only been a fan for must be just over a year now...I've felt her impact in all that I do...she's one amazing woman and a real inspiration to me! :D

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Psychologically speaking, DD is a phenomenon worthy of mention. This also hits upon celebrity and personal feelings people have about people they do not know, or do not know well.

Entertainers like Doris fill a hole in the lives of people, while they are waiting for something else to fill it up. This role is good, and this is why people are attracted to entertainers and entertainment. DD's bright, perky, simple but stylish brand of entertainment helped to pick many people up, and still does. People yearn for this simplicity and upbeat message - that conveys all is well, or will be soon and we are just having some crazy fun. MY niece has a "Ragedy Ann" doll that looks like Doris, which goes to show how pervasive a popular figure can be. I have been told about people singing Doris's songs on a player piano, etc etc etc. Doris is no longer a person per se, but a "PollyAnna-ish" attitude that many people find compelling, and rewarding to pass along.

As for the actual Doris, like many entertainers, don't they find this somewhat ineffable? Doesn't Doris say "I just do not understand it.", quite frequently regarding public sentiment toward her?
"As long as its show business, I'm happy." One of these days, I am going to quit smoking these things.

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And there you have one of the keys to the wonderful side of Doris. She is so humble, so unassuming that she cannot understand her impact on others. What a treasure...so glad she is still with us.

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I understand just how you feel about Doris. I'm 45 and have been entranced by her since the very early 70's. There is something unique about her. I don't know what it is; that voice, the smile, the kindness you feel coming from her. There is definitely something within her that reaches out to a lot of people. Look at this forum and other websites dedicated the this woman that hasn't been in the public view for decades. It shows that there is something within her that reaches to others in a very special way

I only wish that I could have a moment of her time to try and explain to her just how well she has affected other's lives.

George

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one of the things that I think I learned from reading a couple of the recent books is that we who are Doris fans are expecting something to happen that probably will not. I guess we have to assume that there will be no more tv specials, no more movies and no more records. Sad...but true?
At least, she IS meeting with SOME fans, Does anyone know if she ever reads this forum? Has she ever contacted any of you? Is she still in touch with those on here who were in the Doris Day Society???

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Doris, is actually fairly reclusive. A few outside people have managed to see her, but my understanding is that is exceedingly difficult. If you can manage to convince her that you are a reliable escort, however, you could probably see her every day! (pay is probably mediocre - and difficult to live on in Carmel). She employs people, she talks with fans on her birthday over the radio, talks and probably sees some of her Hollywood friends on occasion (especially if they are into pet issues), and has seen a few people in the last 25 years that were special fans-friends, one of whom is Carol, who has just related her story about meeting Doris.

Some of the people on the website have known Doris from having worked for her, or with her in the past. They have lots of privileged information, but have become reluctant to share it because of others who wish to protect Doris's privacy, whatever the substance of the info may be. There is also a fan club, and they have special access to material Doris sends them. Some of this reaches this site, but there is probably lots of interesting stuff they have that people here would like to know more about. I am afraid some of this material may have been lost.

Of course, Doris reads this forum all the time and Bets secretly logs in. And if they miss something, one of the forum minders will bring it to their attention!! :lol:
"As long as its show business, I'm happy." One of these days, I am going to quit smoking these things.

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Thanks, Gerard.

In that case, I hope I am not embarrassing Doris by telling all of you how much she has meant to my life.
Some would think that is ridiculous since my seeing her as a little boy hardly counts for actually 'knowing" her. However, the cards and letters that I have received since 1949 certainly helped me to keep somewhat in touch. She has so many fans, I am sure that she certainly could never keep track of them all, nor should she be expected to do so. It is important to me that she just knows how much we love her. I think she does. And I also think she cares about us as much as we care about her. She is simply the best.

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George -
I think you expressed it beautifully. I feel much the same way. She has some special quality that jumps
off the screen and grabs you. It shines through her music, as if she's singing just to you. I think you're
right - the kindness is always there. The thing that comes through to me - in everything she does - is
how genuine she is. I looked up genuine - these are a few synonyms of genuine--- heartfelt, honest,
natural, real, straight forward, true, trustworthy, unaffected, authenic. Doris Day is all these to me.
Its what I feel everytime I watch one of her movies or listen to her music.

George - if you ever get a chance to tell her how much she means to you --- tell her it's the same for me !
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dayniac wrote:George -
I think you expressed it beautifully. I feel much the same way. She has some special quality that jumps
off the screen and grabs you. It shines through her music, as if she's singing just to you. I think you're
right - the kindness is always there. The thing that comes through to me - in everything she does - is
how genuine she is. I looked up genuine - these are a few synonyms of genuine--- heartfelt, honest,
natural, real, straight forward, true, trustworthy, unaffected, authenic. Doris Day is all these to me.
Its what I feel everytime I watch one of her movies or listen to her music.

George - if you ever get a chance to tell her how much she means to you --- tell her it's the same for me !
I think your definition GENUINE of Doris describes her to a tee. Every single word is all true. I think we all think the same way on the forum.

Carol

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