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Unread post by doris-day-fan » 15 May 2019, 20:22

Hi Everyone,
I just want to remind you to please call in a message/tribute about our dear Doris for our upcoming DORIS DAY TRIBUTE SHOW which will air on www.mybnr.com on Friday starting at 3pm Eastern time.
Here are the phone numbers to record your message:
In the USA - dial: 877-577-2630, option 3
Outside the USA - dail: 540-288-4001, option 3
I just talked to Les Brown, Jr., and he will be calling in for this special tribute. We want to hear from all of you, so please make time to call in ASAP so we can get them all in on the DORIS DAY TRIBUTE SHOW on Baltimore Net Radio - it is an internet station, so everyone will be able to hear the show.
God bless dear Doris - she meant so very much to all of us....her light will shine forever!
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Unread post by jmichael » 15 May 2019, 20:46

Here is a beautifully written appreciation.

“The Matchless Presence Of Doris Day”

https://www.newyorker.com/culture/posts ... is-day/amp

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Unread post by texas gonzalo » 15 May 2019, 22:06

Yes indeed jmichael, a beautifully written appreciation about beloved Doris Day. And "the voice remains," a voice that will forever live in our minds and in our hearts. Texas Gonzalo

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Unread post by webmaster » 16 May 2019, 04:02

Yes, fantastic article, Michael, it really captures elements of Doris' fame, talent, and personality that you weren't able to put into words. Thanks for finding it, I loved reading it. :)
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Unread post by Jas1 » 16 May 2019, 05:12

Me too Michael - thanks for posting.

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Unread post by jmichael » 16 May 2019, 07:13

Well, articles like this give us a lift when we desperately need one, don't they? I want to share the positive whenever I can in the midst of overwhelming feelings of loss. What struck the most about this article is the writer really gets her.

Bryan, please accept my apologies for not commenting on the smashing photos you posted from the UK papers. They are wonderful.

Wow - it seems to me the UK press did a far better job than the US media. Feels like people have forgotten her over here to a large extent.

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Unread post by Johnny » 16 May 2019, 10:27

Thank you so much Michael for the New Yorker article on Doris. The article is written with a true appreciation and respect for Doris Day. It is comforting to know that there are insightful reporters who understand Doris' magnificent talents and cultural impact. I have shared this article with my family and friends.

Bryan, thank you for the British newspaper coverage on Doris. I was surprised at the clinical and shallow reporting in newspapers and television in Canada and America.. I did not see any interviews on television with anyone who knew Doris or from friends in Carmel. For example, on The View, there was a thirty second announcement about Doris' passing.

Celebrities tweeted their condolences. However well intentioned, it is a sad commentary on our manners and social graces in this time that heartfelt condolences on a person's life and death are communicated in a tweet.

Paul Mc Cartney wrote a thoughtful, caring statement about Doris that in part said, " She was a true star in more ways than one" …"I had the privilege of hanging out with her on a few occasions. Visiting her in her California home was like going to an animal sanctuary where her many dogs were taken care of in splendid style. She had a heart of gold and was a very funny lady who I shared many laughs with. Her films like Calamity Jane, Move Over Darling and many others were all incredible and her acting and singing always hit the mark. I will miss her but will always remember her twinkling smile and infectious laugh as well as the many great songs and movies she gave us. God bless Doris"


Paul's sincere, graceful and heartfelt statement truly honours Doris Day with the same authenticity that Doris reflected in her life and work.

Perhaps in time there will be more genuine statements like Paul Mc Cartney's.

I hope one day there will be a Doris Day Legacy Award instituted by the Academy that will be given to people or organizations that help protect and save endangered animals whether domestic or wild. I believe this would help Doris rest in love.
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Unread post by Jas1 » 16 May 2019, 14:12

I saw a lovely tributes from Kim Novak and Vicki Lawrence - wonder if Candice Bergen has commented? Or Bryan May ?

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Unread post by On Moonlight Bay » 16 May 2019, 17:55

So sad to hear that Doris is no longer with us but she is hopefully in a better place and reunited with her beloved son Terry - and we're all grateful for all she gave us and will never forget her.

But I was alarmed to read that Terry's son Ryan (Doris' grandson) was prevented from seeing her in her final years, even though she wanted to see him.
The manager says that Doris was surrounded by loved ones when she died, you'd think that her nearest relative would be in that group but Ryan says he only found out she had passed away from the news. Given that she was taken to hospital and then moved to a hospice where she died, surely family members should have been notified?

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Unread post by urfate409 » 16 May 2019, 21:19

(my first post ) ... Just had to say feeling so sad our girl is gone. I couldn't sleep Sunday night and put Romance on the High Seas in the DVD player. Watched it till after 2am,..then finally slept. At 7:45am my sister called with the News. So sorry Doris passed at 1am.

Thankfully we'll always have lots of songs and films to cheer us. :wink: But missing Doris Day. :?

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Unread post by Jas1 » 17 May 2019, 04:16

Peter - thanks for the link.

Re Ryan's post- I find it heartbreaking and it is causing a lot of disagreement on social media - I wondered when the topic would make it here- I think it is a conversation to be had- but maybe in members area?

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Doris Day’s grandson’s disturbing claims

Doris Day's grandson has revealed he was banned from seeing her in the final days of her life by her manager.
Ryan Melcher, the son of Day's late son Terry Melcher, said he only found out about his grandma's death on the news and via social media.
Melcher said that due to his parents' divorce, he had "not been allowed to see his grandmother for quite some time."
However, Melcher- now a real estate agent in California - wrote on Facebook: "When I was invited by Doris to dinner a few years ago after my father's untimely death in November 2004 (melanoma), her new business manager, a former fan, intervened and asked me to meet him at the family-owned Cypress Inn here in Carmel, California."

He added: "I was asked by this man: "Why do you want to see Doris?" I was shocked not only at the question, but also that it was coming from someone who was a stranger and outsider.
"I just responded, "um …. she is my grandmother!"
"He replied, "I'm afraid you aren't going to be able to see your grandmother," citing the divorce between my parents as his excuse.
"Looking back, I should have said more; should have drove to her home and not let a stranger come between us, but unfortunately the tall fences and 24-hour guard under her new business manager's direction prevented me taking a stand and reconnecting with my family. She had been so happy to talk to me and we were both excited for our upcoming dinner together just a week before, and this man was clearly manipulating the situation."

Melcher said he would continue to remember Doris fondly thanks to his early memories of her. He would go to her home every day after school, adding: "She instilled a drive and confidence that I will carry with me the rest of my life."
But he said: "The dinner between my grandma and I never took place. Any and all communication was cut off from that point on and I was left bewildered. I later learned that the business manager had fired all the longstanding members on my grandma's Foundation board and appointed his direct family as the new board members. It seemed I was not the only one who had been cut out.
"I tried for some time after this to get the word out about what transpired, however ultimately decided against causing any new emotional waves for my grandmother, who by that time was late in age.

"Also, from what I had heard around the community from in-the-know people, her mind had already begun slipping so I feared my outreach would only cause more stress due to the new folks surrounding her. I could not bring myself to continue to fight an uphill battle at the expense of her wellbeing or my family's."
"When you're young, you believe the adults when they say you are the problem, however no child - or adult for that matter - should be told who they can and can't love. Especially family.

"I will forever be grateful for the time I had with both my father and my grandmother. When I was younger our family was so close and I was so fortunate to have such special people raise me. It's taught me to live in the moment and not leave things unsaid. It's a hard truth, however it is my truth and one I hope others can learn from."

The Doris Day Animal Foundation confirmed the Hollywood icon was surrounded by close friends when she passed.
A statement said she "had been in excellent physical health for her age, until recently contracting a serious case of pneumonia."
It also stated that Day made it clear that she did not want a lot of time spent on memorialising her death.
"Doris' wishes were that she have no funeral or memorial service and no grave marker," the statement read in part.
Her current manager, Chief Financial Officer of her foundation and friend, Bob Bashara, told People that she typically didn't engage in conversations about death.
Day, an avid animal lover, reportedly didn't like to talk about funeral arrangements. "She didn't like death, and she couldn't be with her animals if they had to be put down," Bashara said: "She had difficulty accepting death."
While Bashara wasn't sure exactly why Day did not want to have a funeral, he speculated that it's because she was a shy person despite being one of the most iconic figures in history.
It is unclear if Melcher was referring to Bashara in his Facebook post.
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Unread post by RobertOClare » 17 May 2019, 07:21

Thanks to everyone who has posted on this topic. It has been a great comfort to me.

I love Carmel for reasons apart from Doris, and each week I get the local paper, The Carmel Pine Cone, via email. There is a lovely article in this week's edition with comments from locals including Denny LeVett, the co-owner of The Cypress Inn in Carmel, as well as her grandson Ryan.

I'm not sure how to upload the newspaper, like Bryan did for the UK newspapers, so I'll give you the link to the .PDF file. If anyone can tell me another way to do it, please let me know. Here's the link

http://pineconearchive.fileburstcdn.com/190517PCA.pdf

Enjoy.

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Unread post by Jas1 » 17 May 2019, 08:40

Thanks for that Robert.

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Unread post by jmichael » 17 May 2019, 09:42

Jas1 wrote:
16 May 2019, 14:12
I saw a lovely tributes from Kim Novak and Vicki Lawrence - wonder if Candice Bergen has commented? Or Bryan May ?
Right, Jas, and thank you for sharing this. I thought Novak's comments were particularly touching.

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Unread post by Musiclover » 17 May 2019, 11:10

I didn't see the comments from Kim Novak and Vicki Lawrence. Does anybody have a link to those?

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Unread post by RobertOClare » 17 May 2019, 12:14

Here's another tribute program to be broadcast on BBC Radio 2 at midday on Sunday 19 May GMT. It will be streamed on the Internet. This is the website write-up:

'In tribute to the legendary Doris Day, Michael Ball reminisces on her life and career – and takes you back to his unforgettable interview with the iconic star, recorded in 2011.

The original whip-crack-away girl talks candidly about her movies, her music and her leading men – in an exclusive one-on-one chat that had a lasting impact on Michael, and remains one of his favorite interviews to this day.

Michael says ... "There has only ever been a very few truly iconic movie stars whose talent and image have ensured a kind of immortality. Doris Day is one of the greatest of them all. So to have had an opportunity to talk to her about her life and career when she granted me a very rare interview was beyond thrilling. They don’t make them like Doris anymore, and they never will."'


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Unread post by jmichael » 17 May 2019, 12:28

This is from Kim Novak’s public Facebook page.

“I want to wish a sad, yet fond farewell to a woman whom I have always greatly admired. Doris Day was a fine person who lived a full life honorably. We always seemed to have a lot in common. After leaving Hollywood, we both chose to make our home on the California central coast—both of us deciding to share our new lifestyles with many of the same four-legged creatures we loved so much. Fly free and in peace, dear friend. May our paths cross again!”

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Unread post by jmichael » 17 May 2019, 12:58

Here’s what Vicki Lawrence posted.

#cocktails with Doris Day...a most special #memory She was my childhood favorite. Such a special #lady #rip Doris...
#carmel #absolut ❤️🥰

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urfate409 said (17 May 2019 02:19am)
(My first post ) ... Just had to say feeling so sad our girl is gone. I couldn't sleep Sunday night and put Romance on the High Seas in the DVD player. Watched it till after 2am,..then finally slept. At 7:45am my sister called with the News. So sorry Doris passed at 1am.
Thankfully we'll always have lots of songs and films to cheer us. :wink: But missing Doris Day. :?
Thanks for that (name?) Sorry your post was delayed (above) - I only just spotted it needing approval as your first post. Hope you're sleeping better now. It's had a big (sad) influence on all of us so thanks for sharing your feelings and welcome to the forum. :)

Robert, you've done it exactly right - you can only make links to PDFs. :wink:

Jas, I take your point about Ryan Melcher's Facebook comments being more appropriate for the member's section but as On Moonlight Bay's posts covered something that is already in the public domain, I'll leave it where it is. But if any member wants to express a personal viewpoint, please use the member's forum,

Still missing Doris... I love this cartoon of her from The Pajama Game (with Eddie Foy Jr)

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Unread post by webmaster » 17 May 2019, 17:31

Robert, I just noticed (catching up) your tip about the tribute program on BBC Radio 2 at midday on Sunday. Thanks for that, I didn't spot it. I'm not sure if people outside the UK can access the BBC - can you?

This is the direct link: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0005j5v

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"In tribute to the legendary Doris Day, Michael Ball reminisces on her life and career – and takes you back to his unforgettable interview with the iconic star, recorded in 2011.

The original whip-crack-away girl talks candidly about her movies, her music and her leading men – in an exclusive one-on-one chat that had a lasting impact on Michael, and remains one of his favourite interviews to this day.

Michael says ... "There has only ever been a very few truly iconic movie stars whose talent and image have ensured a kind of immortality. Doris Day is one of the greatest of them all. So to have had an opportunity to talk to her about her life and career when she granted me a very rare interview was beyond thrilling. They don’t make them like Doris anymore, and they never will."

I'll download it and share if I can but as Robert says 'It will be streamed on the Internet'' - follow the link above, which says 'This programme will be available shortly after broadcast'."

Didn't Doris say she was a Micheal Ball fan?
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Unread post by RobertOClare » 17 May 2019, 19:05

Hi Bryan,

To answer your question about accessing the program outside the UK, I don't think there should be a problem. Generally speaking radio programs are freely available internationally. I listened to the MyBnr tribute show (from Boston) (mentioned above by doris-day-fan) here in Ireland this evening. When I lived in Germany I used to listen to Irish radio on the Internet. I just tried BBC Radio 2, and I can listen to the current program being streamed without problems.

I think people will be able to listen 'live' to the program, as well as when the broadcast has finished. I don't know how long they remain available, but I just tested a program that was broadcast on BBC Radio 2 last week, and it still worked fine.

I don't know the answer to the question about Doris liking Michael Ball. Perhaps someone else can help?

My sister in England told me about this program. Thanks Fiona!

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Unread post by Jas1 » 17 May 2019, 21:43

Bryan - I know Doris said she loved Michael Buble - not sure she even knew who Michael Ball was/ is - listening again to Robert Osborne's recorded interview with her for her 90th [really 92] she had very few lack of recall moments and was on the ball very much - very humble and vital and was able to recall the vast majority of memories of a wonderful career. She sounded great and RO obviously adored her.

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Unread post by urfate409 » 17 May 2019, 22:37

Thanks for that (name?) Sorry your post was delayed (above) - I only just spotted it needing approval as your first post. Hope you're sleeping better now. It's had a big (sad) influence on all of us so thanks for sharing your feelings and welcome to the forum. :)


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